Return to India or Stay Back Overseas

We squabble about return to india for good in most of our rendezvous. One guy was trying to justify that its better to settle down in US. This was my reply to him.
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My Dear Friend

We have been toying around this topic for copious years and dead beat by itself. In this day and age, I normally don't deliberate with anybody about this. I realize that the decision is solely on individual persona and their state of affairs.

I am cynical about the statement – US education system is better than Indian system. Check and be proud on the ranking of IISc, IIM, and IITs in the ed-world map. These days, it is not just DAV & Church Park but there are numerous concepts based, Montessori model schools are in our country.

Pple living like King (not poor Desi) in India if they have money. There is one more inevitable element in India – Influence. A right contact with some degree of influence in the low level helps a lot. Not necessary to have contacts with Ministers.

There are ways to mitigate summer heat (car, office, home - A/C), water (pay for lorry trips), electricity (generator), etc.; Individuals do not need to run behind all these. Have been to a condominium in Bannargatta road. Have not seen such a condominium here. Am not sure whether there are some mitigation factors for 8 months winter and ending a day life at 5pm.

India & China are booming. Even our politicians cannot barricade the spur growth in this decade. This is a life cycle of a developing country until it reaches the ‘developed’ status and become stagnant. Now, it is a land of opportunities for pple who defy trying something other than their confined cubicles.

The above things are material comforts, which the deliberation can go on until the cows come home. The issues of dating & leaving parents and live separately from teen age itself are emotional part of life.

Most of us are avant-gardes in the attire but not in the heart. May be we can accept our sons’ go for dating b’coz of our male-dominated social mindset. But can we digest if our daughters’ engage in dating every weekend? Don’t deny that these things started happening in India as well but it is not part of a life style. Less opportunities, environment, mindset, relatives & friends circle, social & cultural fear put a strong barrier.

Pple will be more grateful to their parents more and more once they themselves get into the parenthood. Pple think that all the material comforts + one or two visits per year make their parents happy. I do NOT think so.

Despite all the above, the biggest hurdle is - Pple are all very much worry about leaving their comfort zone – work and social system. Got to start all over again from A and prove it till Z. The naked truth is – Pple are afraid whether they can survive in a very competitive environment in India. I think it is not too bad to fight this battle in early thirties than in late thirties or early forties.

In fact, all the above is for the guys who is still quandary about whether to go back or stay back, not for the guys who have made up their mind to settle in a foreign land.

Situations coerce us to make our life’s decisions. The mockery is – Situation is the ever-changing variable in life. It is better to make a firm decision and live happily & comfortably wherever the place is. A life with dilemma like bewildered cat on the wall is the real awful.

Sinrasu
11 Oct 2005